Dealing with criticism is difficult. It can cause us unhappiness and distress. In my post today I’ve taken a fictional case study approach to exploring this area.
Marie sat opposite me sipping a cup of coffee, her eyes red and puffy from crying which, for now, had at least stopped.
“I’ve struggled to deal with criticism all my life.” She told me.
“Whether this was well-meant in the form of so-called (she highlighted the words) constructive criticism or a deliberate insult seems to have been irrelevant. Instead my automatic response was, and is, always to take it to heart and then to make the mental leap from initial indignation to upset and anguish.”
The tears threatened the edges of her mascaraed eyes once again…
“It’s as if I can’t rationalise what I’m being told in the moment and either can’t accept it as a fair point or I’m unable to come back with sensible reasons as to why it’s just not true.”
“But then, I can’t deny how, when I felt the criticism was undeserved, it has fuelled in me a desire to show the culprit that I am not guilty of the so called misdemeanour. This in turn has made me very determined and consequently made me push hard against my perceived barriers.”Continue Reading