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How I’m Using Affirmations To Become The Real Me

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journeyThe thing I love about affirmations is the way they subtlety allow new and empowering truths to embed themselves into my mind. In using them, I gently become the person I want to be, or rather, the person I know I am. I’m continually surprised when a new behaviour naturally makes an appearance and I realise, on reflection, that I’ve been affirming it as part of my daily routine!

The adage goes that we need to take some time to find ourselves. We need to take time to find out what really makes us happy, what makes us sad, to find out where our passions lie, for work, for love, even for food (maybe this one is easier!). But is this really true? Do we really need to find ourselves?

I think there’s another way to think about this and that’s to consider the things we know, or better put, believe about ourselves. For example, if I believe that I am a shy person, is this really true? Will setting out on a journey of self-discovery enlighten me sufficiently to categorically confirm that I am indeed a shy person? Furthermore, even if I am able to determine that this is the case, will I like what I discover or will I be inclined to make changes so that I am no longer a shy person? Maybe being a shy person doesn’t sit well with my aspirations and I therefore perceive that there is a need for change. [Read more…] about How I’m Using Affirmations To Become The Real Me

I did that!

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This is Mau!

I sat back, content and smug, and continued to stare at the website I’d been working on for the last three weeks.  A ‘cheshire cat’ grin tugged the corners of my mouth upwards as I thought to myself: ‘I did that!’.

Welcome to my new website, it’s been three weeks in the making, thanks to my very limited knowledge of anything techy, but here it is! Working on my website has got me thinking about how far I’ve come since I started this journey…

Do you ever take the time to look back at your achievements? I must admit that this isn’t something I do very often, preferring instead to stay as focussed as possible on the journey ahead. This attitude of not looking back is clearly supported by a number of successful people also, as there are many relevant quotes out there and this one from Zig Ziglar springs to mind immediately:

“Don’t look back, you’re not going that way!”

Succinct and to the point! [Read more…] about I did that!

Be Yourself…If They Let You!

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awesomeI came across a wonderful quote a few days ago, posted on the Positive Outlooks Facebook page, it read:

There comes a time when you have to stand up and say: This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me… or leave me. Accept me – or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don’t fit your idea of who I should be and don’t try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision. When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad – you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you. — Stacey Charter [Read more…] about Be Yourself…If They Let You!

To Give or Not To Give – A True Story

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homeless1I’ve read that there is good evidence to support the premise that if you give to others in some way, it will enhance your own wellbeing, as well as the wellbeing of the receiver.  On a purely common sense level, I have to agree with this because I seem to experience gratification when I give to someone and particularly so if I give to someone who I am very unlikely to see again (in other words, (s)he will have no way of repaying me).  I can float through the rest of the day when I feel that I have been kind and so the positives for me far outweigh the gift given.

I’m not sure what the science or psychology is behind this personal reaction (and really, I’m not that concerned to understand it), but I am the first to admit that I feel so much better about myself if I’ve been able to help in some way as opposed to the other option where I feel guilt for neglecting to help when I know I probably could have done so.

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Reflect to Thrive!

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reflection1 It is a most mortifying reflection for a man to consider what he has done, compared to what he might have done.  Samuel Johnson.

Self-reflection is such an underrated and under-used method of personal growth, I believe.  Although, in fairness to anyone who hasn’t undertaken this ‘pastime’ to any great extent, I think there can be some very good reasons for this.

For example, we usually don’t want to revisit experiences that have been painful or embarrassing, dissecting them to find the gem of learning which would give us the key to moving on with some calmness or equanimity.  Instead, our self-reflection tends to get stuck on justifying our actions or finding fault in others – the ubiquitous blame culture which seems to pervade our society nowadays. [Read more…] about Reflect to Thrive!

Knowing Then What I Know Now!

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audiLife would be so much easier if we had all the information we needed before we embarked on a new project, entered into a new relationship, made an important financial decision or even accepted that new job, don’t you think?  But unfortunately, life just isn’t like that.

Instead, we start and stop new projects, often not seeing them through to fruition, fall in love with the person of our dreams only to discover a few months later that they were never looking for a commitment anyway (or so they say…), buy a new car and then breakdown just days after the warranty has expired or accept a great new job and learn too late that our new boss is somewhat of a narcissist!  Does any of this sound familiar? [Read more…] about Knowing Then What I Know Now!