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How to Deal with Frustration and Negativity

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frustratedDo you ever experience those days where, no matter how hard you work, you’re swimming against the tide? For whatever reason, things which usually run smoothly, people who are usually even-tempered and a delight to be with or technology which usually functions efficiently, all conspire to test your mental fortitude all at the same time? Those little niggles and frustrations, which, cumulated together through the day, become a knot in your stomach, a weight on your shoulders or a mental obstacle which looms shamelessly against the good intentions you have of working on your goals.

Beware…this is the danger zone!  These are the times when stress usually triggers an emotional reaction within us, which, if not called into check, will have us taking the scenic rather than the most direct route to our goals.

It can be tough, after a difficult day at work or looking after the children, to find the energy and impetus to either keep to the straight and narrow: in other words, avoid those things we’ve agreed with ourselves are on their way out of our lives – sweet treats, alcohol, cigarettes, impulse buys etc or on the flipside to make the effort to continue with those things we’ve agreed to introduce into our lives – exercise, more family time, studying, calorie controlling etc. [Read more…] about How to Deal with Frustration and Negativity

You Can Do It!

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birdsYou will have heard me say a number of times that we must never let the negative attitudes of others discourage us from pursuing our goals.  I’ve said it so many times because we hear negativity and discouragement so often that we need to be frequently reminded to keep going.  So, in the interests of counteracting any negativity you’ve experienced recently, this entire blog is given over to encouraging YOU!

YOU are the reason I set this blog and my Facebook page up, YOU are the reason I want to check in every day and to find everything I think will help you in your quest to achieve your goals.  So, this blog is especially for YOU!

I know it’s hard for you to keep going sometimes.  I know you feel tired, I know that you feel you’ve given all that you can, but, I also know that you’re the kind of person who will never give up because you know there’s more to you than the world is currently seeing.  That new person will OUT sooner or later, as there’s no way s/he’s staying cooped up inside!  So just give it that little bit more today, now, because I know you can…I know you will… [Read more…] about You Can Do It!

Dealing with Negative People

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lightsStarting any kind of new venture can be stimulating, nerve-wracking, scary, exciting, daunting, overwhelming and many other adjectives that we may choose to apply, but the one thing that it’s not likely to be (particularly in the long-term) is easy.  For this reason, it’s always beneficial to have support from our families and friends.

Support can be in many forms, like being given the time and space necessary to learn what we need to know, encouragement to keep going when things aren’t progressing as well as we’d hoped, maybe a ‘sounding board’ for when we just need to let off some frustration, or someone to share our successes with when things are going well!

But unfortunately, support for our goals isn’t always forthcoming, especially in the early days.  In fact, quite often what we experience is the opposite.

How often have you been excited to embark on a new goal or project only to be discouraged by those you thought would share your excitement with you?  Unfortunately this experience is very common.  In fact, a lot of people seem to take delight in attempting to stop others pursuing their dreams and we have a whole array of words to describe these people: they are the Debbie-Downers, the Naysayers, the Pessimists, the Redlighters, and the Doubting Thomas(es)…

Sometimes their reactions can be hurtful, but before judging their response as an attempt to hold us back, let’s take a look at some of the reasons why they might react negatively to our plans.

They might think you will change

Some of your friends and family might have a subconscious fear that you might change, and if you change, you might not like them anymore, or they might not like you!  Well, it’s inevitable that if you continue to pursue your goals, you will change.  How could this possibly not be the case?  If you diet, you will lose weight, if you study, you will learn more, if you buy a house, your financial commitments will change, if you have a child, your time commitments will be different.  In other words, either you will have changed directly or you will be changed as a result of your changed circumstances. [Read more…] about Dealing with Negative People

5 Things You Should Do To Improve Your Success Rate

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Check out this quick post to see what actions you should take to improve your success rate!

Take Personal Responsibility

Taking personal responsibility is THE number one requirement to achieving personal success.  The saying, “if it’s going to be, it has to be me” is right on point and its application or lack of, will make or break our success.

So what does taking personal responsibility mean?  I’m sure we all believe we take personal responsibility for our lives.  We go to work, pay the bills, get the children to school, arrange our social lives and even indulge in self development through courses at work and books etc, so what could be missing?

Well, we fail in the personal responsibility arena when we are guilty of blaming others and making excuses.  Using either of these tactics will look like defensiveness to others, which in itself is not a particularly endearing characteristic.  But more importantly, by shifting the blame onto others or the circumstances (deemed to be) outside our control, we are removing our ability to grow from the situation, and, if we don’t grow then we will be unable to demonstrate improved performance the next time we find ourselves in a similar situation. [Read more…] about 5 Things You Should Do To Improve Your Success Rate