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How To Prioritise The Most Important Things In Life

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How To Prioritise The Most Important Things In Life

This is the second of a two-part blog looking at prioritising. Last week we looked at how to figure out what are our real priorities. In this blog, we’ll be looking at how to actually use those findings to prioritise the most important things we should work on each and every day. Ahead of all the emergencies, drama and trivia that comes out way!

Firstly, let me say that I fully appreciate that it’s often not easy to prioritise our needs ahead of those of the people we love. It can often feel selfish or even ignorant to take care of our own needs first, whilst we know that someone is wanting to spend time with us or just needs their laundry doing!

But, learning to prioritise the most important things and then actually working on them, will still leave you with enough energy to get the other stuff sorted to. [Read more…] about How To Prioritise The Most Important Things In Life

You Are The Owner

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wisdomI felt the beginnings of a strop pulling at the edges of my awareness. The train was busy and the seat I’d reserved had been taken by someone else. What to do? Say nothing and simmer in quiet fury at the cheek of the man or assert myself and ask him to move? Neither option were appealing and both would leave me feeling agitated…

You own yourself, and that’s amazing. No one else gets to decide what’s in your head or how you react to life events and circumstances. No one gets to force feed you foods you don’t like or drinks you hate. No one gets to insist that you attend a particular event or even like a certain person.

No, all these and more are your choice, because you own yourself. [Read more…] about You Are The Owner

Doing The Things We Don’t Want to Do!

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treeflowersI’ve struggled a little this week to crack on with writing my blog.  My preferred routine is to start writing almost as soon as the previous blog has been posted.  Sometimes this gets delayed because the muse deserts me for a little while, but, by sheer force of will, I push through the lack of ideas and just start writing anyway.  And this usually solves the problem.  From somewhere deep inside or from a chance conversation an idea emerges and the blog begins to form.

Not so this week.  Instead it took until Thursday evening before the words started to form on the page.  Granted I’ve been feeling a bit under the weather this week, but I have felt a lot worse in the past but still managed to do some writing, so I can only conclude that I was procrastinating.  I was letting myself get away with not doing the thing I knew I should be doing.

It seems fitting then that the blog that’s emerging today is looking at exactly that issue – doing the things we don’t want to do!  I wish I could tell you that I’m immune to procrastination, but that would be lying.  I suffer this affliction as much as the next person as can be evidenced by two successive posts alluding to the subject! [Read more…] about Doing The Things We Don’t Want to Do!

Did You Notice….?

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20131215_183003Have you ever noticed how you stop noticing things?  It’s almost as if we become blind, both to the physical and non-physical things.

I noticed this a few days ago, when, for whatever reason I became aware of the naked bulb in my kitchen.  I don’t remember how or when it happened, but the glass shade that belongs over the bulb got broken and, weeks later, it still hasn’t been replaced.  I had, to all intents and purposes, become blind not only to the physical appearance of the naked bulb, but also to the need to replace it.

This got me thinking about other things that we need to change but inadvertently don’t see, even though this may be causing us some kind of pain (physical or otherwise) or is more apparent (to others) in our tangible environment.

Part of the reason for this I guess is that we fill our lives to such an extent that it clearly is impossible to remember to notice everything.  On some level though we are prioritising those things which are important to us, or, more likely, we are prioritising those things and/or people which are demanding something from us.  But how often do we actually take the time to consciously consider that we are noticing the right things?

But noticing the ‘right’ things isn’t always easy to do of course, particularly if those things have an emotional charge and we would actually rather not deal with them, despite knowing that once we have processed our thoughts and feelings we will be able to move on with our lives more authentically and calmly. [Read more…] about Did You Notice….?

When Life Sends You Lemons….

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suffolk sunriseI’ve been away from my blog for quite some time, and it was a surprise to realise that it has in fact been seven weeks since my last post.  I hope you will forgive me for this quiet period.

I’ve thought long and hard about whether I should write about my reasons for being away and it seems to me that there’s a lesson or two contained in the difficult weeks I’ve experienced and it would somehow be unfair to my readers to gloss over them as if they hadn’t happened.  So here it is…

Way back at the beginning of August, I was involved in a car accident.  Luckily, I experienced no physical injury, although the after effects of dealing with the emotional issues has been an uncomfortable journey.  I guess this would have been enough to deal with at the time, but another blow was about to come when three weeks later my husband had a sudden and completely unexpected heart attack.  Before I go any further, let me just reassure you that he is making an excellent recovery, but of course, at the time, this was a huge shock for me and my family.

In the immediate aftermath of this event, my focus became laser-like, concentrated on the care of my husband and children and everything else was pushed to the periphery of my mind.  But over time, and with a good recovery and prognosis, my mind came back to the importance of picking up my goals and keeping with the journey.

One of the things that Jim Rohn taught me a long time ago through his books and audio programs is that “What happens happens to us all”.  Sometimes this can be a hard pill to swallow; after all, some people experience far more appalling experiences than others, while other people seem to sail through life without a care in the world. [Read more…] about When Life Sends You Lemons….

Of Ladders and Rocks!

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Of Ladders and Rocks!

Does life sometimes feel like a perpetual merry-go-round?  Either we can’t get on or we can’t get off!  There’s always far too much to do than there is time available to do it and even when we manage to catch a passing chair and get cracking with our to do list, it’s a race to fit in as much stuff as possible before we fall off again!  Sometimes it feels like it’s never-ending!

To add insult to injury, while we’re trying to control our day-to-day activities, we never really seem to get ahead with the things that really matter to us, or the things that will really make a difference to our long-term future, and so we keep catching the ride, and then watch ourselves merrily go around in circles!

Does that sound familiar?  I must admit that my life can descend into this kind of merry-go-round chaos on occasion.  It’s characterised by times when I’ve taken on too much either because the project sounded so interesting I just couldn’t walk away or because I was just too embarrassed to offend and didn’t say no when I knew that I should have. [Read more…] about Of Ladders and Rocks!