Getting Over Self Pity
I’ve caught myself out this week…I’ve been caught behaving in a way that my higher self disapproves of, and for very good reasons. But it’s not as if I’ve become this way on purpose. Instead, it’s gradually crept up on me, quietly and stealthily and I’ve given in to the feelings it has created without so much as a minor challenge, but the time has come for getting over self pity.
The frustrating thing though is that in response to the feelings that this behaviour has brought about I’ve felt out of control and consequently unhappy.
You see, due to a series of less-than-positive life events, I’ve succumbed to the expectation that someone will come along and rescue me, rather than me taking the initiative and getting over self pity. In effect, I’ve allowed myself to drift into a thought pattern that fixes me as a victim.
Self Pity and Victim Mentality
Succumbing to victim mentality is a real frustration for me. Some years ago, I made a promise to myself that I would not attend my personal pity parties and instead I would find solutions to the problems and obstacles that were threatening to stop me living the life I want to lead.
There was a particular incident that led up to this promise which had affected a close member of my family. I remember thinking at the time that the situation was extremely unfair and that in the future I, or my family would no longer to ‘held hostage’ (this was how I saw it at the time) to the whims of other people or organisations. [Read more…] about Getting Over Self Pity