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My Self-Sabotaging Behaviours

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My Self-Sabotaging Behaviours – Do You Recognise Any of These Too?

Today I’m going to talk about my self-sabotaging behaviours and specifically my personal experiences with self-sabotage which are many and varied.

If, like me you have a desire to achieve more in your life by setting goals for the things you want to have, do and be, but then you fail to achieve some or all of the things you know in your heart you’re capable of, then you will probably recognise some of these self-sabotage tactics at work in your life too.

Of course, I don’t have all the answers (if I did, I wouldn’t be writing this blog post!) but I hope that by surfacing my own self-sabotage demons that it will help you identify where and how you could be self-sabotaging and then come up with a plan that will help you move forward. [Read more…] about My Self-Sabotaging Behaviours

Always Be Bothered!

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Bothered_1If you are like me, then there are times when you just can’t be bothered to do the things you know you should be doing!

Whether that’s simple domestic tasks that will make your tomorrow a nicer place to be, paperwork that needs acting upon to avoid problems further down the road or work on your goals where the outcome is much further away and somewhat unclear. But whatever it is you know you should be doing, a mental obstacle seems to stand in your way.

In fact, I am guilty of procrastinating on all the instances I’ve given above and here are some of the not-so-pleasing outcomes:

• I’ve failed to prepare laundry in good time and had to wear clothes that I’d rather not! (And no, that doesn’t mean that they were dirty, just that I had to choose something less appealing to wear!)
• I’ve failed to set up a direct debit with my bank which has resulted in a late payment and then a financial penalty too 🙁
• I’ve failed to meet my writing (and other) goal targets which has resulted in frustration and embarrassment for me when I’ve written up my monthly Progress Updates!

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New Year New You?

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New Year 2015Can you believe it?  We’re on the very cusp of a brand new year with all the immediate excitement and anticipation! Plus, if you’re like most people, myself included, you’re already looking forward to, and planning for all the changes, or rather, improvements you’re going to make in 2015! 2014 has taught you a lesson or two, and frankly, you don’t want to repeat them. As we stand on the cusp of a brand new year, we know that we are more than equal to the challenges and goals we have set ourselves…bring it on, we cry!

But that enthusiasm is in stark contrast as, once again the old year draws to an end and we feel the inevitable disappointment of things that could have gone better this year, or, worse, we reach the year end with the usual mixed feelings of having started out with great intentions, but somehow, because life threw so many curve balls our way over the preceding twelve months, there was no way we were ever going to achieve the goals or resolutions we had set for ourselves. In fact, we tell ourselves, we’ve done well just to keep our heads above water!

But is this true? Do you feel satisfied with this justification? [Read more…] about New Year New You?

Go With The Flow!

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Go With The Flow

What must it be like, I wonder, to be as calm as a monk, to have the composure of Buddha or the tranquillity of those who regularly practice meditation or yoga or any other type of ‘higher’ relaxation or philosophical practices?

Or, by contrast, how does it feel to have the continual drive, the ‘alpha-syndrome’ of high-flyers to keep pushing their personal boundaries towards greater and greater success, such as Richard Branson, Donald Trump or Angelina Jolie?

It seems these two portrayals are at complete odds. How can one be as calm as a monk and at the same time be as driven to success as, say, Richard Branson? And yet, these successful people appear to pursue and achieve their goals with minimum bother. They appear in control and easily coping with the demands of their chosen career. [Read more…] about Go With The Flow!

Doing The Things We Don’t Want to Do!

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treeflowersI’ve struggled a little this week to crack on with writing my blog.  My preferred routine is to start writing almost as soon as the previous blog has been posted.  Sometimes this gets delayed because the muse deserts me for a little while, but, by sheer force of will, I push through the lack of ideas and just start writing anyway.  And this usually solves the problem.  From somewhere deep inside or from a chance conversation an idea emerges and the blog begins to form.

Not so this week.  Instead it took until Thursday evening before the words started to form on the page.  Granted I’ve been feeling a bit under the weather this week, but I have felt a lot worse in the past but still managed to do some writing, so I can only conclude that I was procrastinating.  I was letting myself get away with not doing the thing I knew I should be doing.

It seems fitting then that the blog that’s emerging today is looking at exactly that issue – doing the things we don’t want to do!  I wish I could tell you that I’m immune to procrastination, but that would be lying.  I suffer this affliction as much as the next person as can be evidenced by two successive posts alluding to the subject! [Read more…] about Doing The Things We Don’t Want to Do!

It’s Not Easy, But It’s Worth It!

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There are many obstacles to achieving our goals, from not really knowing what it is we want to achieve (a lack of real clarity on the outcome) to fear of failure or even success!  I have written about  many of the obstacles we may face in previous posts (just check out my link on obstacles, here) and today I’m going to expand further and take a look at what it really means to put in the effort to achieving our goals.  Before we start though, let me just say that if you’re on the cusp of starting out on your goal(s), you may find this post somewhat challenging or even an obstacle to starting!  Of course, I hope that’s not the case and that you find some value in the words that follow below. [Read more…] about It’s Not Easy, But It’s Worth It!